Hi Gerr, welcome back to JA. I seem to remember trying to help you out with Polly's gender awhile back. When you take into consideration the relatively short time she has been with you, things are not going all that badly. The thing about parrots is they form such very tight attachments and bonds to their humans, it is not easily forgotten, nor gotten over. It's not even remotely similar to adopting a dog or a cat, who will switch their allegiance fairly quickly. Birds just don't work that way. Added to that, the Amazons, and particularly the Blue Fronts, are known to have nippy tendencies on occasion. It doesn't matter how much of a bond they have with you, they just have nippiness in their gene pool and it's up to us to learn to work with it and around it. The most valuable thing you can do will be to learn to read her body language. All parrots have it, some are easier to read than others. It will take you some time with your own bird and her own way of showing you those silent messages but if you are very observant, you will learn. They all have their own little ways of showing those silent messages so it's not a "one size fits all" answer. There are a couple things though I can tell you to watch for. Watch the pupils of her eyes. If a bird is excited about something their eyes will do what we call pinning or flashing. What that means is the pupil will expand and contract very quickly. If you see that, it does not automatically mean she is going to try to bite. She may be excited about something else, but at the least, it is a sign to stay alert. Another warning sign can be a slight lifting of the head and neck feathers. Same thing as with the eyes, it won't mean a bite every time, just one more heads up sign. Many parrots, when soliciting allopreening from either their parrot mate or their human, will lower their head, presenting the back of their neck. That is an area where they cannot reach to rid their pin feathers of the sheaths. Many parrots appreciate help with that duty and if they don't have a parrot friend to help, it's up to you. The other side of that coin is many parrots will "sucker punch" you with that movement. Lowering the head to lure you in, then giving you a quick nip. The best clue there, when you see the head lowered, is watch the eyes. If she is not maintaing any eye contact with you and may even be slightly closing her eyes, more than likely she is not telling you a fib and truly wants some attention. If she is maintaining eye contact by having her head slightly turned to enable her to keep an eye on you and your hand, more than likely she is tossing you the bait. If you did not already know it, you are probably figuring out about now, you are dealing with a very intelligent animal who is more like having a child around than a pet. Along with all the great things about living with them, they can also be mischievious, and just a little bratty. When she does give you a nip or try, you need to give no reaction whatsoever. A reaction is what she is looking for. You need to ignore is so far as any verbal response; take her back to her cage, turn you back and totally ignore her for at least a full minute. There are few things a parrot dislikes more than being ignored. But they love high drama. The bigger and/or louder reaction you make the more tickled she will be and the sooner she will try to duplicate that reaction. Don't play into her hands that way. It won't take her long to figure out which of her behaviors gets good reactions and which ones get her ignored. One thing you said give me cause for concern. You mentioned spraying her with a conditioner. If I had to guess, I'd bet it's something a pet store employee, (or someone who doesn't know a lot about parrots) told you to use. It's hog wash and you need to just put it in the trash. You have to always remember that anything that goes on your bird's feathers will end up in her system when she preens. That over the counter junk that pet stores sell is there for only one reason; changing your money into their money with no regard to bird safety. Plain water baths are all that any healthy parrot needs and all they should have. The one thing you can use that is totally safe and it doesn't matter how much of it you use is 100% pure aloe juice. It's as good for her insides as it is her outsides. (Yours too by the way.) If you have a plant, you can cut off one arm, squeeze the gooey into her bathing pan or mister and mix well. If you have no plant, you can purchase the type that is intended for human consumption. I find mine in the grocery store. Health food stores may also have it. If it does not have to be refridgerated, then it is the wrong thing and will have a bunch of preservatives in it. For sure don't use any of the aloe vera gel products that we use for sunurns and itching. That would be very dangerous. Birds really appreciate the extra softening and soothing from the aloe when they are molting and have those wicked stiff pin feathers. But you can use it as much as you want and you can mix it as much as 50/50 if you like. It will not hurt her. I'm going to give you a link to more indepth information about the benefits of aloe for her.

Click here: Aloe: Parrot Pharmacy In A Leaf

So, as I said, I really think you are doing a good job with her for no longer than she has been with you. You both should start studying her for that all important body language. Your hubby should continue as he is and you will just have to be patient with her and let her come along at her own speed. Don't get your feelings hurt and don't take it personal if she never warms up to you much more than she already has. It's not in the least unusual for a parrot to pick their human and have little or nothing to do with anyone else. All you can do is try. I hope this helps but if you have further questions, don't hesitate to ask. Patricia